Who is to blame?
Is it your co-workers? Your boss? The President? Congress? The Mayor? The Council? The Commission? The System? The Economy? The Man? The World?
Newsflash: It’s not their fault, it’s yours.
Typically, the big problem is not someone or something “out there” plotting against you, but rather something inside that is holding you back. It may be an unwillingness to learn something new, a fear of conflict, a bad attitude, poor work habits, procrastination, an inability to listen, impatience, or disorganization. The list goes on and on, but rest assured you are the problem. (and so am I)
The good news is this. You can control you. You have the ability to change. You can evolve, grow, and overcome major challenges if you recognize the problem and choose to address it. It takes toughness, honesty, and commitment, but I assure you, it can be done.
Yes, external factors can create difficult challenges. Yes unforeseen circumstances will occasionally knock you down and refuse to help you back up. Your ability to control those things is minimal, so perhaps spending time worrying about them should be too.
Work on you. Pay attention to the playing field, adjust your game, and move from being the problem to solving it. At the end of the day, reflect and think about what you could have done better and at the beginning of the next day think about what you will do differently from before. Very quickly most of the problems created by “them” can be alleviated by you.
